GIVING ALL YOU GOT (100%)

It doesn’t matter what the subject or activity is, when you see your fellow human giving all they got, you know it to be true and it is something to behold. For sports fan, you see this in the play-offs. It also shows itself in the Olympic games where like minded disciplined people show and share their training and results…

THEY PLAY VERY WELL

You also see this in little children too. You see, they don’t think or have considerations like adults do so often they are in the mode of doing all they can whatever it is naturally. Of course they gravitate toward fun and silliness but they still put forth all their efforts naturally

DRUDGERY?

In public service, of which you run into almost daily, you can see where people have given up and are just making minimum efforts to get through the day. They let what they do get to them and wear them down making what they do a burden instead of a delight.

JOHN OR JANE DOE RANDOM

When I see a house cleaner, a handyman, mother, professional, bus driver or customer service representative going the distance using all they have and no attitude is present, then you see the principal of all you have being brought to bare, live and in action. It promotes itself without effort

ALL IN?

It motivates, humbles and causes the one observing that person operating at their capacity to take note of their own dynamics and assess them for performance and realness. If one is alert and aware and sees another going all out naturally, it automatically takes affect for the better. An exchange takes place

MOTIVATION AND EXHORTATION

The best one word to describe it would be HOPE. It gives the one who is stuck in the land of HUM-DRUM, repetition and dullness, or weary and burdened, saddened or surrendered a sort of lift to see another making the best innocent effort at whatever the task is…To rise instead of sulk? Yes to this

YOUR MESSAGE HAS BEEN RECEIVED

When someone gives all they got…well they are not able to give anymore. It has nothing to do with winning or losing, being better or quantity dimensions either. You GAVE what you had and somehow the Universe, in all its wisdom and mystery takes note…What is recorded? What can be said of this?

SENT

What was given…is being given back. It is in use and that is how you thank the one who gave it to you

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UNDER THE INFLUENCE EVERYWHERE I GO

No one got to where they are without the help of others. That’s the way the systems are set-up. This point cannot be argued because it started with someone having to take care for you once you exited the womb. Help (and hurt) is what got you here today to even read this post. However, many specific events accented the journey. Some were planned, some lay-ed on us and some we discovered when we fell into a pit, a place of error and unexpected learning

I’LL HAVE A GLASS OF THIS

There is a potential for the earth to be covered in lemonade if more people would take lemons and get creative with them. The bible says to take evil and use it for good. All things will allow you to prosper if we open our hearts and minds to the process. The good and the bad, the happy and the sad, are found everywhere. Our role? Is to navigate through it all and suck the marrow and spit out the bones!

YOU BENEFIT FROM EVERYTHING

The following persons help to make me what I am today or more specific, had a hand in the process. The most astonishing thing about life is that it teaches you as you go and has its own curriculum. It only requires participation. Seek, ask, knock, yearn and investigate is built-in us plus we are self contained mobile machines…THE POINT? Our environment and us perfectly go together for the better if we want

NO NAMES ONLY THE ROLES THEY PLAYED

My wife: I got a good one! (lol) I cannot tell you how many times she has saved my bacon and I am Jewish! She is a good helpmate, steward and friend. A decent woman. Helps me to appreciate and not take for granted the benefit of having an intimate companion. Great for keeping on ones toes too!

My employer (s): I have had good fortune with this subject. I was always treated well and my feet held to the fires of learning. A good boss nurtures, guides, trains, coaches and counsels. The not so good ones helped me to move on in search of the better opportunities.

My parents: I found out what it was like to be a parent and a whole new world of appreciation and forgiveness opened up for me in regards to my mom and dad and their efforts with me and my siblings. Parenting is not easy to do but very easy to critique. Wait until its your turn! That statement holds up!

My friends: Can be a blessing or a curse and there is no way to find out until you have one. The bad only make the good stand out and who doesn’t want a pal or a buddy to share and care with? They come and go and every one of them brought something to the party. To be or not to be “friends” goes on

My enemies: I have had my share. Some I set-up to hate me more and others just randomly acted out their dysfunction on me. One thing however, you get to examine parts of yourself that you normally wouldn’t visit with when your enemy is doing their thing. Definitely gets your attention

The random person: Iron sharpens Iron and you can get a fine edge anywhere you go because people are everywhere. I have been given a cup of kindness and have had them taken from me. All in all, everyone you meet is going through life at the same time you are. That’s something to ponder

The police: Well if you managed to allude your parents authority, then the next one to hold you accountable for extreme out of the box conduct are these guys. They have final say so and have to put up with some of the most ridiculous parts of human nature. People learn quickly to play fair thanks to them. They help or hinder…its really up to you on how you interact with them

My teachers: They have had access to me all  my young life and then again in college. Some stand-out, others did their job and some shouldn’t be teaching. The influence they wield is considerable. Trying to teach, reach and preach to the general public is challenging but rewarding too. All in all? Thank you

My role models: As a kid, this is necessary and quite normal. The Little Rascals, The Three Stooges, miscellaneous cartoon characters and Superman were mine. Mischief, crazy circumstances, having fun, and climbing fences and leaping around helped me get through the kids stage. The adult models? I gleaned from anyone I thought was doing well until I learned about my own unique well doing capabilities.

My God:   To have invited me to the a grand ball (life), an experience that exceeds all thoughts and feelings and require nothing for it except some intimate interaction says a lot about the life giver. To have put up with me practicing error after error until I could find my values and give them back thus fulfilling my purpose makes God to me, worthy of praise, honor and worship…willingly, gladly and with a joy in my heart.

Thank you…and yes, I am under the influence of it all….

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LEND EVERYONE YOUR EAR AND NOT YOUR MOUTH

Someone told me this one day because they thought I talked too much and didn’t listen enough. Of course I disputed it making their point …lol. I never forgot that little phrase and from time to time I experimented with it. It holds up quite nicely. People like to borrow ears and those that do lend them out are always kept busy and never alone either

THE EAR AT WORK

The other day, I ran across someone who keeps bees. I overheard a conversation and it spiked my interest. I jumped in with some questions and then let the bee keeper have the floor. It was like going to college or looking something up on the Internet only it was live and unrehearsed and without effort too

DON’T ADD OR TAKE AWAY

Something to also become aware of is how we filter information, data or conversation. Many run what they hear or experience through their thoughts or emotions which  distort reality. Thus, they only hear what was filtered through their systems and beliefs. Hear what they chose to hear. Pure listening goes missing

EVERYONE CAN DO IT…BUT DON’T

Learning to listen without prejudice, bias or opinion just pure hearing for listening sake is harder than you think. You can put ten people in a room, speak and then ask each one separately what they heard and guaranteed you will get different answers. Raw listening is an acquired and honed skill

MAKING THE POINT

Rarely can anyone repeat back what was exactly said (or meant) which should teach us all to make allowances and to practice not only patience, but our communication skills. To learn to do this takes effort upfront but when one gets a handle on it, less effort is required. Make the point or lose it

MOUTH DISCIPLINE STORY

On the mouth: Here is an interesting share. I took a self awareness course decades ago and you have to agree to their ground rules for the course to be effective. I did and then jumped in wanting change and growth. For five days they fill you full of processes and interactive sessions that allow you to become more aware…One of them was this…

YOUR MISSION

We were to go out to dinner as a group and not say anymore then what was necessary for that evening or experience. It started when we left the room with our group. Pleasantries were discarded, small talk banned and just a common focus. You spoke only if you had too. You listened and watched

BECOMING AWARE AND ACCOUNTABLE TO THE SELF

It really got interesting when we all entered the restaurant and was asked to order. A minimum of dialogue was put forth and the server had to ask questions of which we answered. No extra words were allowed. The result? One got to see what you said, what you didn’t and what was necessary

Lending out your ear opens up opportunities that only come about from the doing of it

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BEING MOVED TO TEARS (tear talk)

Should this happen to you, support it for sometimes those tears have to come out and do the talking. When words fail, emotions overwhelm and circumstances present themselves that are not mainstream, then we need to communicate another way. I call it heart-speak and it can lead you to places you wouldn’t ordinarily go or visit with. In the realm of heart-speak, much is said without saying

LET IT HAVE ITS WAY

Don’t repress or dismiss either. Here is chance to visit with a part of yourself that is deep within you, past intellect, opinion and thoughts even exceeding feelings that can communicate effectively without sound or words not only to yourself but to others too. Let it take place. Let it have its way

TEAR TALKING

I have had tears of sadness for different reasons and by different causes. Some were of my own doing and for my benefit or occasion and sometimes I was moved at someones else situation or circumstances. I never planned any of it and they come when they come and stay as long as they like

MANY PARTS TO A PERSON

I have also had tears of joy which I found fascinating. We usually identify tears with something wrong so to many it can be a first time experience that defies explanation while making itself known. To be able to visit with an inner place of peace so satisfying that it celebrates with tears? Fascinating holds

THE GRACE OF A FELLOW HUMAN

I have seen people in public crying off to themselves with dignity letting whatever is happening have its way with them and I am always moved to take note. Sometimes I inquire to make sure that if there is something I can do…I will do and other times I sense all is well enough and let people be.

THIS WAS UNPLANNED

I remember when my father died decades ago, for a period of three weeks, I would be flooded by random memories that would just come and go and they would bring an eruption of tears having no respect for where I was or what I was doing. It would come out of no where and I would have to excuse myself until it passed.

OH…HERE WE GO

A flood of tears just pouring down from my eyes, over my cheeks, past my mouth and landing near the chin until I could get my sleeve or handkerchief to help out. During this time, I would be in a state of observation, wonderment and peace as this all ran its course. It was over when it was over

KIDS CRYING

With children, tears talk more than with adults at times. Kids use that outlet to share what they are feeling, to make a point or to express themselves. It has such an impact that you cannot help but take note. If it is caused for a good reason, then let them cry it out. If it is from a boo-boo, who isn’t move along with them?

CRYING BUT WHY?

I had a friends little 4 year old girl who called me grandpa (not related) come running to me at a birthday party crying while trying to tell me that the other kids were calling her names. She got my full attention while I held her and brushed her hair and wiped her face and I asked her in “kid” talk…What did the other kids say? Tell Grandpa….

TAKE YOUR TURN

Between gasps of breath with intermittent weeps, she said…They (other kids) called me slow-poke. I couldn’t help myself and let out a laugh and quickly caught it. You see they were taking turns on a water slide and you had to climb a ladder to the top and then slide. She went slow so she wouldn’t fall. I told her to tell them….using “kid talk”…its my turn and then just do your turn and don’t listen to them

GRANDPA SAID

With tears almost gone, I said, can you do that? With her little head nodding up and down, with a parting hug and a final…sure you can from me, she ran off to take her turn telling everyone in line that grandpa said it was my turn…NOTE: She had no dad and I was filling in. I had my own tears from that and let them tell me…well done grandpa as I watched and waited for them to subside

Teary eyes and life in motion…somethings defy explanation but demand respect never the less…TEARS

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WE FORGET THE POWER WE HAVE

Lets start with your word. This can accomplish great feats, motivate people, create, destroy and cause movement that leads to action or inaction. Stop and ponder this. I meet people all-day who completely misuse and disrespect their own word that comes out of their mouth. I come from the point of view that I believe a person until I have a reason not to believe that person. The persons word controls that outcome

I DON’T GET IT

Here’s another. What price do you put on credibility? Your word supports this action and if you misuse your word, you automatically lose credibility. These things are are beyond purchase and more important than money, power and fame. Often people have the words but no music. WHY? They lack credibility. In simple earthly parlance…”I don’t get it” thoughts or statements hang thickly in the air

YOU EITHER DO…OR YOU DON’T…OR RATHER NOT SAY

How about trust? This can put brakes on anything if it is in doubt and stop all things dead if a lack of trust is discovered in play. If someone trusts you, a whole set of dynamics go into play different from if they don’t trust you. This is definitely a game-changer and not to be taken lightly either

PLAY-FAIR SHOULDN’T HAVE TO SAID OR TOLD

Fair-play is another powerful dynamic. Even kids will call out NO FAIR when playing the simplest games if someone tries to shortcut or manipulate a simple move or action. It just doesn’t sit well to let it go by without saying something. If happening, people note it and if not, they note that too

I DECLARE….?

How about a promise to perform? Why would you formally declare that something will happen and that you will be the one to make sure it does and then not do it? Yes, there are circumstances out there that will and can interfere with the process, but then you are saying that you can prevail when you promise something. If not, DON’T. Pause when putting this into action. Your whole being is at stake

YOUR FORGIVEN

Forgiveness is another powerful dynamic. We can release someone from their error whether planned as in “deliberate” or perhaps by their ignorance and error and when we do, we are the better for it even if it hurts right down to our bone. Then, there are those who when they receive this, make good use of it too

IF NOT NOW…WHEN?

Inaction is another that we don’t pay much attention to. We were not put here to do nothing but to the contrary, everything that crosses our path summons our input and is an invitation to interact with. We are suppose to make a difference and you can jump in anytime, anywhere and for any reason as you see fit or why are you here? Ask and answer that to your own satisfaction and purpose

FINDING FAVOR WITHOUT EFFORT

Look what we take for granted. If these were for sale, who wouldn’t purchase them knowing how valuable and necessary they are? But, they are not for sale! They are free and given even before the asking. Ponder this and when using these virtues correctly, gratitude for them is duly noted by the one who gives all good gifts

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KEEP IT SIMPLE PLEASE (inner child knows this)

Simplicity. It is as simple as that. Simplicity requires only that it be considered. If called upon, it will perform and meet expectations. If tweaked, it can exceed them. Anyone can do it too. Why then do some people make things more complicated than they are? If complicated, what is taking place becomes more open to interpretation instead of what is really going on. After that, hesitation and confusion follow.

 CAN’T MESS THIS UP

Look what follows. Long explanations. Dear in the headlights and people pausing where they should be charging ahead. Inaction is supported and brakes are applied. Simplicity remains inviting, easy to use and doesn’t discriminate. It is a level playing field if there ever was one. All are welcomed and there is no bad experience…WHY? Its so simple that it is hard to mess up. But some people will try to never the less

I’M SORRY…WHAT IS YOUR POINT?

Every once in a while, I meet people who talk intellectually. This is not a put down. I worked with a bunch of Technology Engineers for two years and what appeared to me to be the long hard road, part gibberish and have no common sense appeared as normal, fun and par for the course to these brainiacs. However, I kept telling them that their target for our product is not other engineers, but the public. We argued all the time. WHY?

ONE PLUS ONE IS…two!      NOT… E=MC2

I speak 6th grade. That doesn’t mean I am a sixth grader NO. It just means that if the average person only made it to sixth grade and that is all the formal knowledge they have in the world of established education, we would get along just fine. WHY? Because simplicity cuts to the chase of everything

OVER-WHELM-ING

Real Estate documents, Filing Income Tax returns, some instruction manuals, small print, disclaimers, warranties, criminal, civil, and business and professions code while all necessary at some point should not dominate or intimidate the players. However, they sure have a foot hold in everything

Me…I just want to keep it simple…that’s all

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TO THINE OWN WHINE BE TRUE?

Whine all the time? Many voice their uneasiness, disappointment, discontentment by complaining. They are not far from the truth because the first step to growth and change is to acknowledge its needed. Its the second step were people falter or never progress toward. Look, wherever you go, there is going to be room for improvement on everything you see, feel and experience.

WHINE THEN…. GO TO WORK

Learning how to navigate through it all as you go using trial, error, and do-over, patience and even closing one eye from time to time will help you more than letting the stress of the imperfection invade your well being or advancement for the better. Watch the will as it is pushed and pulled upon

THIS MAY HELP

Always think problem AND solution and not just problem. Horse & carriage. Love & marriage. Peanut butter & jelly (lol).  Problem & solution. Get it? We have the ability to rise above anything and before that, handle it so that it does not run rampant all over us or others. Use that power to affect a change

THE OLE 3 TO 1 APPROACH

There is a rule called three to one (3 to1) when giving criticism or exploring problems. Cite three good things about what is taking place or that you see is positive and then let the problem out as well. The balance will keep you from becoming addicted to being judgmental plus support hope and change

ON THE SOUND?

On the whining…take that high pitched complaining sound while valid in theory and substitute a harp or violin for accompaniment to the experience. The shrill sound doesn’t do anyone any good. Learn to explore with resolution and you will find yourself stepping to a livelier tune.

List of miscellaneous whiners who can be taken off the list any time

1. My clients. Whine all you want but we must make lemonade at some point please. Work with me here

2. On spouses: Gentle but with courage and hope for the future, get this down to a squeak from a roar

3. On friends…The glass is half full. Haven’t you heard by now? Drink up and lets move on

4. On customer service: Say it without resentment but definitely feedback. Your helping the next guy

5. On life: The dead are all too quiet. Be thankful to be able to voice an opinion. Know that hope makes its all better too…hope for the best. If life is a pain then be glad you can feel something. Make life a pleasure when you are ready to do so

Why whine? It takes up valuable time and time is not something we should spend frivolously

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TELLING AND RECEIVING THE TRUTH

We shouldn’t have to take an oath to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but. It should be your default. Once more, you should be able to receive the truth too. Now if you are a person of humility, wanting to grow and become all you can be, then it is prized to receive all the truth you can stand. If you have trouble with the process of giving and receiving truth, we have some work to do

WHAT IS TRUTH?

The truth is no respecter of persons, places or things. It was here first and all things answer to it. It is the glue that bonds the Universe and gives life and consistency. It carries out the desires of the Universe consistently and lovingly so that all may benefit continuously and without the asking. The truth is everything, always everywhere and before anything was…there was truth. Nothing exists without this. It is the very center of the all there is

IT CAN REDEEM YOU IF YOU LET IT

In the moment, it can sting a wrong person who has a some unfinished business or who strayed a little to the left or right. It may cause someone to resent you, even want to harm you and over react to the point of argument and even payback. But I have it on good authority that if you have acted properly, your actions will hold….WHY? HOW?

YOU CAN COUNT ON IT

You see one day, that truth, if told properly will present itself to that person who will then realize the love that you were trying to share with them at the time… but they couldn’t receive it then. Now, in the current moment, they see it all and that truth goes to work…Best gift you can give anyone short or long term too.

HONESTY..WE ALL WANT IT

We all want and crave the following: HONESTY. We want it and we want to give it but something interferes with this child like process and taints it. But we have the power to have the final word on the subject and to do what is right, fair and true…if we want too.

YOUR ON NOTICE

Remember this: When you align yourself with the truth, when you seek it out and want it and love it for the right reasons, it is instantly received, acknowledged and noted by the truth-maker that monitors all hearts. It also puts all ANTI-truth forces on notice…you have chosen a side. Dark forces will balk, test and harass…..Let them

Now….you will stand in the company of the greats…Hold… and those shadow forces will cower and flee. Left standing will be someone worthy to know now… and in the times to come

Truth be told

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PUT SOME LEGS ON IT (dreams)

Dream all you want. Wish away and the sky is the limit. Hope for the best. However, at some point, the most effective, guaranteed, down to earth, works every time, is when you take it all, whatever ALL is and put forth energy into it, then stand back and behold what will visit with you next. RESULTS! One way or the other, something will happen. Its the action that was needed to cause a reaction. That comes from you

GIVE ME A CHANCE

One thing I have become aware of over the decades is how the American dream works if you work. Let me explain. You see, people all over the world just want an opportunity to work, to make something of themselves. They know that something will become of it. They just need that chance. America is that!

DREAM AND THEN MOVE!

You work it when you see the opportunity to do so. Then, you keep working it, assessing it, having faith and consistency in it and before long, the next best step is revealed. So, what do foreigners do? They come here and want to work. Before they come, they are dreaming of it. Then, they arrive and want to make it work for them and America delivers. Consider this as well….

STEP BY STEP

Whether you were born here or not, you start by getting a job…ANY JOB. You work and you get paid. You either save some money or pool it and the next step is to buy your first home. Then, you are happy, content and motivated to have made it thus far. Your family is growing and everyday affords you the energy and motivation to continue and enjoy. Keep up the good work is what I would say to anyone

YOU SUCCEED AUTOMATICALLY

If you did nothing else for the next twenty years but worked and paid your mortgage off, an incredible event takes place worth mentioning and which is the POINT OF THE POST. You now have a home nearly paid for and are a person of property and that was with little or no effort but what was expected of you

THE MINIMUM CAN BE ANYBODIES

Then, either money saved, or a pension or a retirement account or even Social Security kicks in and you have what most people who don’t have… dream of having. A home, a place to lay your head, some benefits and the satisfaction of a well lived life. There is the minimum of America…the beautiful

GO AS HIGH AS YOU WANT…but warning:

Now anyone can up what I just described to any level they want making America show its promise and potentials in other ways. The name given to America…. The Land of Opportunity is no myth or wasted boast. NO. It is a reality. If you stress, if you use questionable means or if you don’t pace yourself…

WATCH THE GREED AND YOUR WILLFULNESS

Then, you can run into a nightmare of your own doing right quick if you obsess or lose the charity in your own heart while traveling along.. .We can work hard or not, buy a home or not or enjoy the sites and the sounds of a decent life style but not until we play the correct part required by us. In other words…Its not what you have but how you came to have it…Be mindful of this

WHAT MOVES DREAMS AROUND?

That be LEGS…put some legs on all that talk, dreaming and want…and lo and behold…it appears

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YOU CAN BE CONTROLLED BY YOUR INSECURITY AND VANITY

If you don’t get a handle on your own insecurity and vanity, then someone else will and usually it is not to the persons liking either. Its your vulnerable spot, unfinished business that visited with you early on and is now at home in you interfering with your carefree life and existence. It is not supposed to have a front row seat BTW…

THE TRIGGER

Some people trigger other peoples insecurity and vanity without even knowing that they have done so. Its the truth that does it. Someone makes an innocent comment that is or is not appropriate and someone takes issue with it… wanting to know…What did you mean by that? It has begun….

WHY REACT?

I meant nothing. YOU are reading more into it than you should. That is the point of the post. Your insecurity and vanity button has been pushed. What this should tell you is the following: Until you can get a better handle on it all, put this button where people cannot access so well. We now know it exists

GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE

Eventually, you will get to the root of that insecurity. It is a childhood trauma that came and made a home in you. Children are resilient and the survival mechanisms within a human are exceptional. WHY? They enable us after being injured or slighted to pick ourselves up and move on…But here’s the catch LITERALLY….

WATCH OUT FOR THIS: RESENTMENT

If you resent the episode of injustice or unfairness, then it has made a home in you. Yes, you will move on but with that additional weight now being carried within you. Fast forward now. You grow up and you, the adult, discover that some of your joy is missing or compromised. It is so subtle too

LOSE THE WEIGHT!

What to do? You track it down and discover its roots. Then, through remorse, regret, sorrow and just plain forgiveness of self and others (called repentance in the earthly parlance), it is released and YOU go on without it. Its like walking on air once the release takes place. You are lighter for it. No baggage!

ALL IS VANITY

On vanity…pride, emptiness, low esteem and worth, plus arrogance roam the once joyful halls of where the little kid in you used to come and go by also known as happy go lucky. Now, you overreact and compensate to make up for the missing or inadequate parts of your being…This obsessive focus and lack is called vanity. There is more to it, but this will do for now.

WHY IS THIS?

An awareness of why this is taking place again may lead you back to childhood event or it could be that you have chosen this way to reward yourself. Its a form of your will being done. It can even be used for denial purposes but it is high maintenance and doesn’t hold over time. You want to be RID of this

LEARN TO LAUGH IT OFF

First, become aware of these dynamics. Second, get a handle on it. Don’t expect to clean it all up in one sitting. In time, without being willful but instead mindful, it will dissipate if you don’t summon these things and give in to the temptation to use them. After a time, you shall rule and they will become a near nothing…a distant memory or even a good laugh if you allow it

YOUR ARE WORTH THIS

Short term pain will take place as you discover, identify and then begin the journey to cure yourself and be free and then it will be followed by long term pleasure…Well worth any effort. Bon Voyage!

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